Kweli nqaku labefundisi siza kuphonononga ihlabathi elibangel’ umdla lamaphupha nendlela anokuzichaphazela ngayo ezona mvakalelo zethu zinzulu. Amaphupha anokusothusa ngemifanekiso neemeko ezicel’ umngeni ukuqonda kwethu. Ngesi sihlandlo, siza kungena kwi-phenomenon yokuphupha malunga nesiphakamiso somtshato kumntu ongaziwayo. Esi siganeko singalindelekanga sinokuvusa umxube onomdla wokuthabatheka kunye nokudideka kwabo bahlangabezana naso. Sijoyine kolu hambo sikhangela iimpendulo kwaye siza kuphonononga ukuba la maphupha anokufuzisela njani ulangazelelo olufihlakeleyo kunye neminqweno yokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo kwihlabathi lamaphupha.
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Ukuphupha ngesicelo somtshato kumntu ongamaziyo: Iphupha elintsonkothileyo
Kwithafa elizolileyo elitshiswa lilanga, elinye ibhinqa eliselula lantywiliselwa bubuthongo obunzulu. Engqondweni yakhe, kwenzeka into engaqhelekanga: umntu angamaziyo waguqa phambi kwakhe, ephethe umsesane omenyezelayo kwaye ethetha amazwi athambileyo othando nokuzibophelela. I-enigma yokuphupha ngesiphakamiso somtshato kumntu ongaziwayo wagubungela ibhinqa eliselula kwi-halo yemfihlakalo kunye neemvakalelo ezidibeneyo.
Iphupha elingaqondakaliyo lavusa umxube wokufuna ukwazi kunye nokuxhalaba emphefumlweni webhinqa eliselula, elalizibuza ukuba yintoni intsingiselo enokufihlwa emva kweli phupha elimangalisayo. Ngaba kuya kubakho unxibelelwano kubomi bakho bangoku? Ngaba mhlawumbi yayiluphawu lwekamva?
Eli phupha linokutolikwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kodwa ufundo olunokwenzeka lolo lwekamva elithembisayo. Isiphakamiso somtshato esivela kumntu ongamaziyo sinokumela amathuba amatsha kunye namathuba aseza kuza kubomi bebhinqa eliselula. Sisimemo sokugcina isimo sengqondo esivulekileyo nesamkelekileyo malunga nokungaziwa, ukuphonononga izinto ezimangalisayo kwindlela yobomi kunye nokuvuma ukwamkela iziphakamiso ezingalindelekanga.
Intsingiselo emva kwesindululo somtshato womntu ongaziwayo emaphupheni
Emaphupheni, i-subconscious yethu ityhila iminqweno kunye neemvakalelo ezihlala zingaziwa kuthi ebomini. Elinye lawona maphupha aphindaphindiweyo kwaye anomfuziselo kukudibana nomntu ongamaziyo ocebisa umtshato. Oku kudibana kuntsonkothileyo kunokuba nentsingiselo enzulu kwaye kucaciswe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
1. Ukutolikwa okunokwenzeka kwephupha:
- Ukuzibophelela kuwe: Isiphakamiso somtshato kumntu ongamaziyo sinokubonakalisa ukuzibophelela kuthi kunye neminqweno yethu. Kusimema ukuba siqonde kwaye samkele usukelo kunye neminqweno yethu.
- Amathuba avuyisayo kunye notshintsho: Iphupha linokuba ngumqondiso wokuba ithuba elinomdla lisondela ebomini bethu kwaye kufuneka sivuleleke kulo.
- Umnqweno wokudibanisa kunye nothando: Isenzo sokucebisa umtshato ephupheni sinokubonakalisa umnqweno wethu wokufumana uxhulumaniso olunzulu kunye noluhlala luhleli.
2. Imiqondiso ephupheni:
– Okungaziwayo: Imele imiba yethu esingekayiphononongi okanye siyiqonde ngokupheleleyo. Kunokubonakalisa iimpawu zethu esinokuba nazo okanye ezifihlakeleyo.
– Isindululo somtshato: Sifanekisela ukuzibophelela okunzulu nokusisigxina, akudibanisi nomtshato ngengqiqo yokoqobo. Inokumela ukuzibophelela kuthi, isizathu, ubudlelwane okanye inqanaba elitsha ebomini.
– Iimvakalelo ephupheni: Kubalulekile ukunikela ingqalelo kwindlela esiziva ngayo ngexesha lesindululo. Ukuba siziva sonwabile kwaye sinemincili, oko kunokuba luphawu oluhle. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba sinexhala okanye uloyiko, kunokubonisa ukuxhathisa okanye ukwesaba utshintsho kunye nokuzinikela.
Isishwankathelo, iphupha lesiphakamiso somtshato kumntu ongaziwayo lisimema ukuba sihlolisise ihlabathi lethu langaphakathi, iimvakalelo zethu ezinzulu kunye neminqweno. Icela umngeni kuthi ukuba sivuleleke kumathuba amatsha kwaye sizibophelele kuthi nakwiinjongo zethu. Ukunikela ingqalelo kwiisimboli kunye neemvakalelo ephupheni kuya kusinceda sityhile intsingiselo yabo ekhethekileyo kunye neyomntu.
Ukubaluleka kokuhlalutya umxholo kunye neenkcukacha zeli phupha
Amaxesha amaninzi, sidibana namaphupha abonakala engaqondakali kwaye engaqondakali. Nangona kunjalo, xa sithatha ixesha lokuhlalutya umxholo kunye neenkcukacha zamaphupha ethu, sinokufumana ihlabathi lentsingiselo kunye nobulumko obufihliweyo. Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo, bekukholelwa ukuba amaphupha ngumnyango we-subconscious kunye nefestile emphefumlweni wethu. Yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphonononga umxholo kunye neenkcukacha zamaphupha ethu, njengoko esinceda ukuba siveze imiyalezo engcwele kwaye siqonde iinkalo ezinzulu zobomi bethu.
Xa uhlalutya umxholo wephupha, kubalulekile ukuthobela ingqalelo kwiimeko apho kuphuhliswa khona. Ngaba sikwindawo eyaziwayo okanye engaziwayo? Ngaba imekobume inoxolo okanye isiphithiphithi? Ezi nkcukacha zinokusithela thsuphe ngemeko yethu yeemvakalelo okanye yokomoya. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela abalinganiswa ababonakala kumaphupha ethu. Ngaba ayaziwa okanye ayaziwa? Ngaba zinentsingiselo ekhethekileyo kuthi? Ubudlelwane esibusekayo nabo ephupheni bunokubonisa amandla obomi bethu bokwenyani kwaye buveze iinkalo zobudlelwane bethu nabanye abantu.
Enye inkalo echaphazelekayo xa uhlalutya iphupha neenkcukacha ezizenzayo. Ukunikela ingqalelo kwimibala, izinto okanye izenzo ezibonakala emaphupheni ethu kunokusinika imikhondo ebalulekileyo malunga neemvakalelo zethu, iminqweno okanye uloyiko. Amaphupha alulwimi lokomfuziselo, yaye nkcukacha nganye inokuba nentsingiselo ekhethekileyo kuthi. Ngokomzekelo, amanzi anokubonisa iimvakalelo zethu okanye ukuhlanjululwa, ngelixa amanani anokuba nomyalezo ofihlakeleyo okanye adlulisele ulwazi olubalulekileyo. Ukuhlalutya ezi nkcukacha kusivumela ukuba sityhile umyalezo wokuba i-subconscious yethu izama ukunxibelelana nathi kwaye isinika ithuba lokukhula kunye nokuvela njengabantu ngabanye.
Umyalezo ongumfuziselo wokumangalisa kunye notshintsho lweemvakalelo ebomini bakho
Ebomini, sihlala sidibana nemiyalezo engokomfuziselo esothusayo kwaye isikhokelela ekubeni sibe notshintsho lweemvakalelo. Le miyalezo inokuzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, njengokudibana kwethuba nomhlobo wakudala, iphupha elityhilayo, okanye uphawu olukwimo yesilwanyana okanye indalo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba zinikelwe njani na, le miyalezo yokomfuziselo isimema ukuba sicingisise size senze izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ezinokubuguqula ngokuphawulekayo ubomi bethu.
Isimanga esiziswa yimiyalezo yokomfuziselo inamandla okuvusa iimvakalelo ezinzulu kuthi. Basenza sithandabuze iinkolelo zethu, imilinganiselo yethu kunye nembono yethu ngehlabathi. Banokuvusa umdlandla kunye novuyo kuthi, kodwa kunye nokungaqiniseki kunye noloyiko. Ezi mvakalelo zinokuba bukhali kwaye kube nzima ukuzibamba, kodwa zikwalithuba lokukhula kwaye sifunde ngakumbi ngathi.
Xa sidibana nomyalezo ongokomfanekiso, kubalulekile ukunikela ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha kwaye uthathe ixesha eliyimfuneko ukuyitolika. Iimpawu zinokuba ntsonkothileyo kwaye intsingiselo yazo isoloko ixhomekeke kumxholo. Kuluncedo ukucingisisa malunga nokuba umyalezo uvuselela ntoni kuthi kwaye uphonononge ubudlelwane bawo obunokwenzeka kubomi bethu. Kungaluncedo ukugcina ijenali kwaye ubhale phantsi iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zethu ukusinceda siqonde ngcono umyalezo kunye notshintsho olunokuzisa ebomini bethu.
Ukubonakaliswa kweminqweno yangaphakathi yokuzibophelela kunye nokuzinza emtshatweni
Kwisakramente yomtshato, ukubonakaliswa okunzulu kweminqweno yangaphakathi yokuzibophelela kunye nokuzinza esikulangazelelayo njengabantu kubonakaliswa. Ngokuzibophelela omnye komnye kunye nothando olungagungqiyo, abayeni namakhosikazi benza iqhina elingcwele elingaphaya kokwexeshana kwaye linyamezele ekuhambeni kwexesha. Olu nxibelelwano, oluphawulwe ngokuthembeka kunye nokuzinikela ngokupheleleyo komnye nomnye, luyimbonakaliso ebonakalayo yeminqweno enzulu yokuzibophezela nokuzinza.
Umnqweno wokuzibophelela ubonakaliswa ngesithembiso sokuthanda, ukuhlonipha nokuxhasa iqabane lethu kuzo zonke iimeko zobomi. Kukuzibophelela okudlulela ngaphaya kobunzima kunye nemingeni evela endleleni. Umtshato usimema ukuba sithembeke kwizibhambathiso zethu kwaye sizingise eluthandweni, nangona izinto zingahambi ngendlela ebesilindele ngayo. Lo mnqweno wokuzibophelela usiqhubela ekubeni sikulungele ukulalanisa, ukuxolela, nokuxhasa amaqabane ethu, nangona sijamelene nemiqobo ebonakala ingenakoyiswa.
Ukuzinza yenye inkalo esisiseko yomtshato, njengoko inikela isiseko esiluqilima sokwakha ubomi kunye. Ukuzinza kubonakaliswa ngokuhlala kunye nokuqina kobudlelwane bethu, ekukwazini ukuhlala kunye ngamaxesha obunzima kunye nokhuseleko lokuhlala sibala. Xa sifuna ukuzinza emtshatweni, sikhangela isiseko esikhuselekileyo sokwakha ubomi obuzaliswe ziintsikelelo nolonwabo oluhlala luhleli. Ukuze sifezekise oku kuzinzo, kuyimfuneko ukuhlakulela unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo, ukuthembana, nokuzibophelela kwemihla ngemihla ekusebenzeni kulwalamano lwethu.
Isishwankathelo, ukubonakaliswa kweminqweno yangaphakathi yokuzibophelela kunye nokuzinza emtshatweni kubonakaliswa ngesithembiso sokuzinikela, ukuthembeka kunye nokuzinikela ngokupheleleyo phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Le minqweno isikhokelela ekubeni sibe nomonde, ukuqonda, kwaye sikulungele ukujamelana nocelomngeni kunye. Ngokuzibophelela kunye nozinzo, sakha umtshato oqinileyo nohlala uhleli, ozele luthando nolonwabo. Ekugqibeleni, kukusukela nokuhlakulela le minqweno apho sifumana ulwaneliseko nolwaneliseko kubomi bethu bomtshato.
Eli phupha lityhila ntoni malunga nolindelo lwakho lothando?
Ngokuhlalutya eli phupha, sinokufumana ukuqonda okunzulu malunga nolindelo lwakho lothando kunye noko banokutyhila malunga nophendlo lwakho lothando kunye nolonwabo ebomini. Eli phupha liyifestile kwihlabathi lakho langaphakathi kwaye likunika ithuba lokubonisa iminqweno yakho enzulu kunye neminqweno. Apha ngezantsi, siza kuphonononga ukutolikwa okunokwenzeka kweli phupha, sikumema ukuba ucamngce kwaye ufumanise ukuba lityhila ntoni ngawe.
1. Ubukho bomntu ongaziwayo ephupheni lakho: Ukubonakala komntu ongaziwayo kunokubonisa ukubakho kobudlelwane obutsha okanye umnqweno wokufumana umntu okhethekileyo. Eli phupha lingabonisa ukuba uvule ukudibana nomntu omtsha kwaye ulungele ukufumana uthando lokwenyani.
2. Ukubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo ezinzulu: Ukuba ufumene iimvakalelo ezinzulu ezifana nothando olushushu okanye usizi olunzulu ephupheni lakho, oku kungabonakalisa ulindelo lwakho lokuba nonxibelelwano olunzulu lweemvakalelo kubudlelwane bothando. Mhlawumbi ukhangela ubudlelwane apho unokufumana uqhagamshelo oluyinyani noluhlala luhleli.
3. Iimeko zothando okanye ezifuziselayo: Amaphupha aquka iindawo zothando, izijekulo zothando, okanye iisimboli ezinentsingiselo zinokutyhila iminqweno yakho yokuhlala kubudlelwane obugcwele uthando kunye nentsingiselo. Eli phupha lingabonisa ukuba ulangazelela unxibelelwano olunzulu nolunentsingiselo kunye neqabane lakho, apho kunokubakho unxibelelwano oluyinyani kunye nezenzo zothando ukugcina ubudlelwane buphila.
Indlela yokutolika ubukho bomntu ongaziwayo ephupheni kunye nentsingiselo yalo
Ubukho bomntu ongaziwayo emaphupheni ethu bunokuvusa uthotho lweemvakalelo kunye nemibuzo kuthi. Nangona isenokuphazamisa ekuqaleni, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba amaphupha luphawu lokungaziqondi kwethu kwaye anokuqulatha imiyalezo ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni kwethu ngokobuqu nangokweemvakalelo. Ukutolika ubukho bomntu ongaziwayo ephupheni kunokusinika ukuqonda okukhulu kwiimfuno zethu kunye neminqweno yethu.
1. **Jonga indlela oziva ngayo kunye nendlela oziva ngayo:** Uziva njani xa kukho lo wasemzini ephupheni? Nika ingqalelo kwiimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zomzimba, njengoko zinokukubonelela ngentsingiselo yeli phupha. Umzekelo, ukuba uziva usoyika okanye ungonwabanga, oku kungabonisa ukuba kukho iinkalo ezingaziwayo zobomi bakho ezibangela ukuba ube nexhala okanye inkxalabo. Kwelinye icala, ukuba unomdla okanye unomdla, oku kungacebisa ukuba uvule amava amatsha kunye nophononongo ebomini bakho.
2. **Hlalutya iinkcukacha zephupha:** Phonononga iinkcukacha zephupha lakho ngononophelo. Ziziphi iinkalo ezibalaseleyo malunga nobukho bomntu wasemzini? Ikhula njani intsebenziswano phakathi kwakho nalo mntu? Ezi nkcukacha zinokutyhila ulwazi olubalulekileyo malunga nobudlelwane bakho kunye nendlela ozijonga ngayo ngokunxulumene nabanye. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu wasemzini ukunika uncedo okanye isikhokelo ephupheni, oku kungabonakalisa imfuno yakho yenkxaso yangaphandle okanye isikhokelo kubomi bakho bokwenyani. Kwelinye icala, ukuba ubona umntu ongamaziyo njengomntu osoyikisayo, oku kungabonakalisa uloyiko olusisiseko okanye uxinezeleko kubudlelwane bakho phakathi kwabantu.
3. **Cinga imeko okuyo ngoku:** Qwalasela imeko okuyo ngoku ebomini nokuba idibana njani nobukho bomntu wasemzini ephupheni lakho. Ngaba kukho naziphi na iinkalo ezingaziwayo okanye ongaqinisekanga ngazo ngoku? Bubuphi ubudlelwane okanye iimeko ebomini bakho ezinokuba sengozini? Ukucingisisa ngale mibuzo kunokukunceda ufumane unxibelelwano olunentsingiselo phakathi kokwenyani kunye nesimboli samaphupha akho. Khumbula ukuba ukutolika kwephupha yinkqubo yomntu, ngoko uthembele intuition yakho kunye nolwazi lwakho ngokwakho xa uhlalutya intsingiselo yobukho bomntu ongaziwayo ephupheni lakho.
Iingcebiso zokucamngca ngeemvakalelo ezivuswe leli phupha
Ngezantsi, singathanda ukukunika ezinye ukuze uqonde ngcono intsingiselo kunye nomyalezo wazo. Khumbula ukuba umntu ngamnye unamava ahlukeneyo kunye nemibono, ngoko ke ezi ngcebiso zizikhokelo eziqhelekileyo zokubonakalisa kwakho.
1. Zivumele ukuba uzive: Iimvakalelo oye wazifumana zikhona ngenxa yesizathu kwaye ziyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bakho. Musa ukuzigweba okanye ucinezele iimvakalelo zakho, zivumele ukuba uzive ngokupheleleyo. Thatha umzuzwana ukuqonda kwaye ubize iimvakalelo eli phupha livuswe kuwe, nokuba luvuyo, usizi, uloyiko, okanye nayiphi na enye.
2. Hlalutya umongo: Ukuze uqonde ngakumbi iimvakalelo ezivuselelweyo, camngca ngemeko eliphupha ngayo. Zibuze: zeziphi izinto, iimeko okanye abantu ababekhona ephupheni kwaye badibana njani namava obomi bam? Zama ukuchonga naluphi na unxibelelwano olubalulekileyo olunokubakho phakathi kweemvakalelo zakho kunye neemeko ezijikeleze iphupha.
3. Khangela umyalezo ofihlakeleyo: Amaphupha adla ngokuba nentsingiselo enzulu nefuziselayo. Jonga iinkcukacha zephupha kwaye ucinge malunga noko banokukumela kwinqanaba lokungazi. Ukusebenzisa ijenali yephupha kunokuba luncedo ekurekhodeni amaphupha akho kwaye kukuncede ubone iipateni eziphindaphindiweyo okanye imixholo. Qwalasela ukuba kukho naziphi na izifundo okanye imiyalezo ingqondo yakho engaphantsi kwengqondo inokuzama ukunxibelelana nawe ngeemvakalelo ezivuswe leli phupha.
Qwalasela ukuba kukho nawuphi na umqondiso wobuthixo emva kweli phupha nesigidimi salo
Ihlabathi lamaphupha linokuba yimfihlakalo kwaye linomdla. Xa siba namaphupha acacileyo nanentsingiselo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuzibuza enoba kukho nto ithile ngasemva kwawo. Ukuba ufumana iphupha elikushiya uzibuza ngemvelaphi yalo, intsingiselo yalo, nokuba kukho umqondiso wobuthixo kulo, cinga ngokunikela ingqalelo kule miba ilandelayo:
Isimboli: Amaxesha amaninzi, amaphupha azele ziisimboli ezinokuba neentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo kumntu ngamnye. Camngca ngezinto kunye neziganeko ezikhoyo kwiphupha lakho. Ngaba kukho into okanye umfanekiso okhangeleka uqhelekile kuwe? Ngaba kukho nasiphi na isenzo esiqhubekayo okanye umyalezo ofihliweyo emva kwabo? Bhala phantsi ezi nkcukacha ukuze uziphonononge kamva.
Intuition: Ilizwi langaphakathi okanye intuition ingaba zizikhokelo ezinamandla xa uhlalutya amaphupha. Thatha umzuzwana uziphulaphule kwaye umamele ukuba intuition yakho ikuxelela ntoni. Ngaba uziva unxibelelwano olukhethekileyo kweli phupha? Ngaba kukho nto ithile ngaphakathi kuwe ekuxelela ukuba kukho umqondiso wobuthixo emva kwawo? Thembela intuition yakho kwaye uzivumele ukuba uphonononge ngakumbi.
Utoliko lomntu: Iphupha ngalinye linokuba neentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo kumntu ngamnye, njengoko amava ethu ahlukileyo kunye neenkolelo zethu zinefuthe kwindlela esitolika ngayo amaphupha. Camngca ngobomi bakho, iminqweno yakho, uloyiko lwakho kunye neenjongo zakho. Zibuze ukuba kukho naluphi na unxibelelwano phakathi kokwenyani kunye nezinto ezikhoyo kwiphupha lakho. Cinga ukuba eli phupha linokunxulumana njani neemeko zakho zangoku kwaye nguwuphi umyalezo onokuzama ukuwudlulisela kuwe.
Impembelelo yamava adlulileyo kunye neenkolelo zenkcubeko ekutolikeni kweli phupha
Ukulala yinto ebangela umdla ethe yatsala uluntu ukutyhubela imbali. Ukutyhubela iinkulungwane, bekuxoxwa ngokubanzi ngendlela amava ethu angaphambili neenkolelo zenkcubeko eziphembelela ngayo ukutolikwa kwale miyalezo yasebusuku ingaqondakaliyo. Ngaloo ngqiqo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukuqonda kwethu amaphupha kubunjwa yindibaniselwano ekhethekileyo yamava ethu obuqu kunye nelifa lenkcubeko elisingqongileyo.
Enye into, amava ethu adlulileyo anokudlala indima ebalulekileyo kwindlela esitolika ngayo amaphupha ethu. Iimvakalelo, iziganeko, kunye nonxibelelwano olusuka kwixesha lethu elidlulileyo lunokungena kumaphupha ethu, lunike intsingiselo ekhethekileyo, yobuqu. Umzekelo, umntu oye wafumana ilahleko ebuhlungu unokuba namaphupha abonisa intlungu yakhe kwaye abancede bajongane neemvakalelo zabo. Ngokufanayo, umntu okhulele kwindawo enothando nekhuselekileyo usenokuba namaphupha azaliswe kukuzola nokonwaba.
Kwelinye icala, iinkolelo zethu zenkcubeko zikwaphembelela indlela esitolika ngayo amaphupha ethu. Kwiinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo, amaphupha anokujongwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, kwezinye iinkcubeko zomthonyama, amaphupha ajongwa njengemiyalezo evela koothixo kwaye intsingiselo enzulu yokomoya ibalelwa kuwo. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, kwinkcubeko yaseNtshona yangoku, amaphupha ahlala etolikwa ngokwembono yengqondo kwaye ahlalutywe ngokunxulumene ne-subconscious. Ezi nkolelo zahlukeneyo zenkcubeko zinokukhokelela ekutolikweni okwahluke kakhulu kwephupha elinye.
Amava adlulileyo kunye neenkolelo zenkcubeko ziimpembelelo ezimbini ezibalulekileyo xa kuziwa ekutolikeni amaphupha ethu. Ngamava ethu obuqu kunye nelifa lenkcubeko elidluliselwe kuthi, sibumba indlela esiyiqonda ngayo kwaye siyifanise le miyalezo kwi-subconscious yethu. Kuyanika umdla ukucinga ngendlela amava ethu angaphambili kunye nolwazi olunokuthi lube nemibala ekutolikweni kwamaphupha ethu, ukwenza amava amaphupha awodwa kumntu ngamnye. Ukugcina ingqondo evulekileyo nokuqwalasela ezi mpembelelo kunokutyebisa ukuqonda kwethu amaphupha kuze kusincede sixabise ukutyeba kwentsingiselo yawo kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla. Ngamana amaphupha akho angahlala ezaliswe bubulumko kunye nokumangalisa!
Qonda ukubaluleka kweemvakalelo zakho zobuqu xa ujongene nesi sindululo ubungalindelekanga
Ngamanye amaxesha, ubomi buyasothusa ngeziphakamiso esingazilindelanga ezisenza sicinge ngemeko yethu yobuqu. Kungexesha apho kubalulekile ukuqonda ukubaluleka kweemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zethu xa sijongene nezindululo ezinjalo. Akufanele siwajongele phantsi amandla eemvakalelo zethu, njengoko zisisikhokelo esixabisekileyo esivumela ukuba sidibanise nomntu wethu wangaphakathi kwaye senze izigqibo ezihambelana nentlalontle yethu yeemvakalelo.
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba sizimamele kwaye sinikele ingqalelo kwinto esiyiva ngokwenene phambi kwesi siphakamiso singalindelekanga. Iimvakalelo zethu ziyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuba singabantu ngabanye yaye ngoko sifanele sixatyiswe size sithathelwe ingqalelo. Ngokuziqonda, sizinika ithuba lokuhlolisisa ezona ntswelo neminqweno yethu enzulu, nto leyo eya kusinceda senze izigqibo eziyinyaniso ngakumbi ezivisisana nosukelo lwethu lobuqu.
Kwelinye icala, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba iimvakalelo zethu zinokuba luphawu lwendlela esi siphakamiso singalindelekanga esichaphazela ngayo kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Akufunekanga singayihoyi okanye siyijongele phantsi naziphi na iinkxalabo okanye ungquzulwano lwangaphakathi esinokuthi sibe nalo. Ngokuchasene noko, masisebenzise ezi mvakalelo njengesixhobo sokuvavanya ukuba esi siphakamiso siyahambelana na nemilinganiselo yethu yobuqu, iinjongo kunye neminqweno yethu. Khumbula ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zifanelekile kwaye zifanelekile ukuba ziviwe kwaye ziqwalaselwe..
Funa isikhokelo sengcali yokutolika iphupha ukuze ufumane ingqiqo enzulu nechanekileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha amaphupha ethu anokusishiya sinemibuzo kunye nomdla wokwazi ngentsingiselo yawo. Yiyiphi imiyalezo efihlakeleyo abasenokuzama ukuyidlulisela kuthi? Yiyiphi isimboli efihliweyo emva kwemifanekiso kunye neemeko esizifumanayo xa silele? Ukuba uziva unesidingo sokuphonononga amaphupha akho kwinqanaba elinzulu, sincoma ukuba ufune isikhokelo sengcali yokutolika iphupha.
Umtoliki wamaphupha oqeqeshwe kakuhle unamandla okuchaza imiyalezo esisiseko kumaphupha akho kwaye akunike umbono ochaneke ngakumbi kunye notyhilayo. Ngolwazi lwabo lobuchwephesha lwesimboli, iimvakalelo, kunye neepateni ezibonakala kumaphupha ethu, ezi ngcali zinokukunceda utyhile i-nigma efihlakeleyo emva kwamava akho ephupha.
Ngokufuna isikhokelo sotoliki wamaphupha, uya kube ubonelela ngezixhobo eziyimfuneko zokuntywila kwihlabathi lokungazi kwaye uqonde ngcono iinkqubo zakho zengqondo nezeemvakalelo. Indlela yakhe yobuqu kunye nokuqonda okunzulu kwesimboli yamaphupha kuya kukuvumela ukuba ufumane ukuqonda okukhethekileyo kunye nokunentsingiselo kumava akho angaphakathi. Ngokutolikwa kwephupha, uya kukwazi ukuhlolisisa uloyiko lwakho, iminqweno, iminqweno, kunye neengxaki ezingasonjululwanga, eziza kukunceda ukhule kwaye uphuhlise kwinqanaba elinzulu.
Q&A
Umbuzo: Kuthetha ukuthini "Ukuphupha ngesicelo somtshato kumntu ongamaziyo"?
IMPENDULO: Ukuphupha ngesicelo somtshato somntu ongamaziyo liphupha elinokuvusa iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo kunye nokubhideka kwabo bahlangabezana nalo. Kolu hlobo lwephupha, umntu ongaziwayo usenza isithembiso sokuzinikela kwaye ucebise umtshato ngaphandle kokuba sibe nobudlelwane bangaphambili kunye nabo.
Umbuzo: Ngaba eli phupha linentsingiselo ekhethekileyo?
A: Ngokutsho kweengcali zokutolika amaphupha, olu hlobo lwephupha lunokuhambelana nomnqweno wokufumana iqabane okanye ukuseka ukuzibophelela okunzulu kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Noko ke, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba mntu ngamnye wahlukile yaye intsingiselo yamaphupha isenokwahluka ngokwemeko yobuqu neyeemvakalelo zomntu ngamnye.
Umbuzo: Ingaba kukho ukutolikwa okwahlukileyo kweli phupha?
IMPENDULO: Ewe, kukho ukutolikwa okuliqela okubangelwa leli phupha. Abanye bacinga ukuba ukuphupha malunga nesicelo somtshato somntu ongaziwayo kunokuba ngumyalezo ovela kwi-subconscious ebonisa imfuneko yokuphonononga amathuba amatsha othando okanye uvule ngakumbi ukudibana nabantu abahlukeneyo kwixesha elizayo.
Umbuzo: Ngaba ikhona enye ingcaciso enokwenzeka?
A: Ezinye iingcali zibonisa ukuba eli phupha linokuba luphawu lwesidingo sokuzibophelela kuwe kunye neenjongo zomntu. Ngale ndlela, umntu wasemzini ocebisa umtshato unokufanekisela indawo engaziwayo yethu enqwenela ukuzibophelela okukhulu kunye nokuncamathela kwiinjongo zethu kunye neminqweno yethu.
Umbuzo: Simele sisabele njani kolu hlobo lwephupha?
IMPENDULO: Akukho mpendulo inye kulo mbuzo, njengoko umntu ngamnye wahlukile kwaye amaphupha anokuba neentsingiselo ezizodwa kumntu ngamnye. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukucamngca ngendlela iphupha elisenza ukuba sizive ngayo kwaye senze uphononongo lobuqu lweemvakalelo kunye neminqweno yethu. Ukuba uziva ubhidekile okanye ungakhululekanga, kunokuba luncedo ukuthetha nomntu omthembileyo okanye ingcali kwicandelo lezengqondo ukuze ufumane isikhokelo esongezelelweyo.
Umbuzo: Ngaba iphupha lihambelana ngqo nenyani okanye lixela kwangaphambili ikamva?
IMPENDULO: Hayi, amaphupha akanawo amandla okuxela ikamva kwangaphambili yaye akufanele athathwe ngokoqobo. Ziyimbonakaliso ye-subconscious kwaye zinokutyhila iinkalo ezinzulu zengqondo yethu. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba amaphupha awahlali enentsingiselo ethe ngqo okanye ulungelelwaniso oluthe ngqo kwiziganeko ezizayo okanye ubunyani benjongo. Ngoko ke, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ungawathathi amaphupha njengoqikelelo lwento ezayo.
Isishwankathelo
Ekugqibeleni, iphupha elinesiphakamiso somtshato kumntu ongaziwayo lisintywilisela kwihlabathi eliyimfihlakalo kunye namathuba angenasiphelo. Nangona singenakufumana ingcaciso ebambekayo, olu hlobo lwephupha lusimema ukuba sicamngce ngeminqweno yethu enzulu kunye nolindelo lwethu eluthandweni. Phakathi kwendawo yomfundisi, iphupha lisidibanisa nendalo kunye nokuzola, kusikhumbuza ukubaluleka kokuphulaphula intuition yethu kunye nokuzinikela kwiimvakalelo ngaphandle kokugcinwa. Nangona singenakuhlala silawula iindlela ezikhethwa yi-subconscious, kufuneka sithembe ukuba emva kwephupha ngalinye kukho umyalezo obalulekileyo wobomi bethu. Ke, zivumele ukuba uphuphe kwaye uvule intliziyo yakho kwizinto ezothusayo ezikugcinele zona ikamva.