Pehea e ʻike ai inā he aloha a he hoaaloha paha. He mea maʻamau ka manaʻo huikau ke noho mākou i kēlā kaulana «kahi o nā hoaaloha«. Nīnau ʻoe iā ʻoe iho: Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā he hoaaloha wale nō a he mea ʻē aʻe paha? Makemake ʻoe e ʻike inā aia ʻoe i loko o ka wahi hoaloha a i ʻole ke manaʻo nei ka mea āu e mālama ai i nā lele i loko o ko lākou ʻōpū ke nānā aku iā ʻoe? No ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e heluhelu i kēia ʻatikala no nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo a e ʻike i nā hōʻailona maʻalahi o ka hoihoi kāne.

Pehea e ʻike ai inā he aloha a hoaaloha paha ma o kekahi mau hōʻailona

E ʻike inā he aloha a hoaaloha paha ma o nā hōʻailona

E ʻike inā he aloha a hoaaloha paha ma o nā hōʻailona

ʻOiaʻiʻo, ʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia hihia. He ʻokoʻa ka hana a ka poʻe a ʻokoʻa hoʻi kā lākou hana. Eia naʻe, ʻoiai kēia, hiki nō e hoʻomaopopo i kekahi mau hōʻailona e maopopo ai inā he mea ʻē aʻe a i ʻole he hoaaloha maikaʻi wale nō.

He mea nui e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻohe pono e lilo i paranoid a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana he hōʻailona kekahi kikoʻī. ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kemika a me ka lokahi ma waena o ʻoukou ma mua o kekahi manual a alakaʻi paha. Akā naʻe, maikaʻi mau ke kuhikuhi ʻana i kekahi mau kikoʻī e kū i waho i nā poʻe āpau ke makemake lākou i kekahi.

1. Haʻi ia iā ʻoe i nā mea a pau

E noʻonoʻo mau: ʻo ʻoe ke kanaka e nānā aku ai kāu hoaaloha e kamaʻilio me nā pilikia? Malia paha aia ʻoe i loko o ka wahi hoaloha. Ke pānaʻi ʻia ke kuko, aia a ea o ka pohihihi a me ka manao. No laila inā mau e kaʻana like i nā mea a pau i kou ola Me ʻoe, ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hoʻoikaika liʻiliʻi e hoʻohiwahiwa iā ʻoe a i ʻole hana i kēlā ʻano manaʻo hoʻomaka. Loaʻa paha ʻike iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he hoaaloha.

2. E kamaʻilio e pili ana i kekahi

Ke nīnau ʻoe iā ʻoe iho: Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā he hoaaloha wale nō a he mea ʻē aʻe paha? ʻO kēia paha ka hōʻailona maopopo loa i ka manaʻo o kekahi iā ʻoe he hoaaloha. Inā hoʻomaka ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke aloha me kekahi, ʻoiaʻiʻo nō ʻoe i loko o ka wahi hoaaloha. Pela no ke noi ana mai ia oe i ka olelo a'o aloha me ka manao ole e hoihoi paha oe ia ia.

3. Hāʻawi ʻo ia iā ʻoe i nā inoa inoa

Inā ʻo ia ke ʻano Kāhea iā ʻoe ma nā inoa inoa maikaʻi e like me "kaikuahine a i ʻole kaikunāne"ʻAʻole paha ʻoe e manaʻo i kēlā makemake nui ma kāu ʻaoʻao no ka wā e hiki mai ana. ʻAʻole ia manaʻo ʻaʻole hiki i ke keikikāne a i ʻole ke kaikamahine ke ʻike iā ʻoe me nā maka hoihoi, ʻoiai he hoaaloha ʻoe i kēia manawa.

4. He poʻohiwi wale nō ʻoe e uē ai

ʻO kahi hōʻailona ʻē aʻe he ʻāpana ʻoe o ka wahi hoaloha ke huli mai ke kanaka iā ʻoe i ka pau ʻana o kahi pilina. E noʻonoʻo i kēia mau kūlana, no ka mea hiki nō he poʻohiwi aloha wale nō e uē ai i nā kūlana paʻakikī ke mālama.

5. Manaʻo hopohopo ma kou ʻaoʻao

ʻO kēia kekahi hōʻailona maʻamau o ka wahi hoaloha. Ke aloha ka manaʻo, he mea maʻamau ka hopohopo o ke kanaka. Inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia i hoʻomaha, hoʻomaka ʻo ia e ʻakaʻaka i nā mea ʻakaʻaka ʻole, a i ʻole e hoʻāʻo e hoʻohiwahiwa iā ʻoe ma kekahi ʻano, he hōʻailona ia e ʻoi aku paha kēia aloha ma mua o ka hoa. Ma ka pilina aloha, ʻaʻole hoʻāʻo ke kanaka e hoʻohiwahiwa a hoʻohauʻoli paha i kekahi.

ʻO kekahi hōʻailona maʻamau o ka pilina, ʻo ia ke ʻōlelo ʻana i nā mea me ka ʻole o ka hopohopo e pili ana i kāu e hana ai i kāna ʻōlelo, ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻaʻohe hopohopo e pili ana i kāu e hana ai.

6. E ho'āʻo e hana e like me Cupid

Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai inā he hoaaloha wale nō a he mea ʻē aʻe paha? He mea maʻalahi kēia hōʻailona! Ke kamaʻilio nei ʻoe e pili ana i kahi mea hoʻololi iā ʻoe? Ua ho'āʻo paha ʻoe e launa me kekahi? Hoʻokahi hōʻailona hōʻailona hou. No laila, e hoʻolohe mau i kēlā kikoʻī a i ʻole, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi, inā ke hele ʻoe i waho, lawe ʻoe i kahi hoaaloha no kou manaʻo hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i ka hoʻokūkū kūpono.

7. Pili kino

Ke kū like ka manaʻo, he mea maʻamau e ʻimi i ka ʻili a me ka pili kinoMa ka pāʻani a ma ke ʻano he kumu e pili ai kekahi i kekahi. Inā ʻaʻole hiki kēia iā ʻoe, ʻoiai inā he manawa kūpono, no ka mea ʻaʻohe ona manaʻo e mālama i kahi pilina kino kūikawā.

He nui nā ʻōlelo a ke kino e pili ana i kekahi, akā pono ʻoe e hoʻolohe. E akahele mau ʻaʻole e noʻonoʻo ʻo nā mea a pau a ke kaikamahine e hana ai me kona kino he hōʻailona ia o ka hoihoi no ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke lilo i paranoid a ʻike i nā hōʻailona kahi mea ʻole.